There are moments when the world goes quiet—
But not the kind of silence that soothes.
I’m talking about that heavy silence…
The one that echoes.
That presses in from all sides.
That makes you question if your presence even matters anymore.
And in those moments, when no one’s clapping…
No one’s checking in…
When the phone stays dry, the chair stays empty, the inbox unread—
You are left with one option:
To show up for yourself.
Even when it’s hard.
Even when it’s awkward.
Even when it feels like screaming into a void.
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So how do you do that?
How do you “show up” when you’re tired, discouraged, or mentally tapped out?
You start small.
You show up in the most minimal, most honest ways.
Because those count too.
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Here Are 7 Simple Ways to Show Up for Yourself in the Loudest Silence
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1. Say Your Own Name Out Loud
Sometimes, all it takes is hearing yourself say:
“I’m still here.”
Because in the absence of outside affirmation, sometimes your voice has to be the first one you believe.
Try this:
Say your name.
Then say, “I’m proud of you for surviving this moment.”
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2. Choose Rest Without Guilt
Rest is not quitting.
Rest is resistance.
Rest is saying, “I matter enough to pause.”
Try this:
Take a nap.
Step outside.
Turn your phone off.
You don’t need to earn stillness—you already deserve it.
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3. Write One Honest Sentence
Not a journal entry.
Not a poem.
Just one sentence that lets the weight out of your chest.
Try this:
“Right now, I feel…”
Write it.
No filter. No fix.
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4. Set a Non-Negotiable for the Day
You don’t have to conquer the day—
Just meet yourself in it.
Try this:
• “I’ll drink water today.”
• “I won’t answer that text.”
• “I’ll sit outside for 5 minutes.”
Small. But sacred.
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5. Build a Safe Soundtrack
When the silence starts screaming, let the music speak for you.
Try this:
Create a playlist called:
“Come Back to Me.”
Fill it with songs that hold you. That center you. That bring you back.
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6. Let One Person In (If You Can)
You don’t have to spill your soul.
But connection in any form = medicine.
Try this:
Text: “I’m heavy today, but I’m here.”
Or: “Not ready to talk. Just needed someone to know I’m trying.”
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7. Light a Candle. Say a Prayer. Breathe.
Ritual anchors you when reality feels too big.
Let light, breath, or prayer become a language your body understands.
Try this:
• Light a candle and whisper, “God, carry what I can’t.”
• Close your eyes. Take 3 deep breaths. Call yourself back home.
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Final Reflection:
What’s one small way you showed up for yourself today?
Even if no one saw it.
Even if it didn’t feel like much.
Write it down. Name it. Honor it.
You’re doing more than you think.
And you are worthy of grace.
Now I challenge you—
Take a moment to reflect.
Map out what showing up for yourself looks like.
Even in the silence.
Even beside the empty chair.
Even with the unread messages.
Be the one who checks in on you.
And if you’re not ready to share what that looks like here in the comments—
my DMs are always open.
Always safe.
Always present.
You don’t have to walk through the silence alone.
Kae Jaye The Writer 