We need to talk about the difference between being AVAILABLE and being SAFE. Because the two are not synonymous. Earlier this week, I spoke about the silence people retreat into when their vulnerability is met with judgment, dismissal, and criticism. But today, I want to take that conversation a little further. What does it actually … Continue reading Talk About It Thursday: Are You Really a Safe Place, or Just Someone Who Says They Are?
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For the moments Kae Jaye steps from behind the pen and speaks as she is.
Monday Konfession: Everybody Ain’t a Safe Space
Y’all wonder why folk out here struggling in silence?!?! Because when they DO speak on it, they’re met with dismissive remarks, judgment, and condemnation for their feelings instead of compassion. Instead of someone simply asking, “How can I be there for you?” But the minute someone is no longer here by means of self-harm, y’all … Continue reading Monday Konfession: Everybody Ain’t a Safe Space
I Konfess, There’s More to Life Than What I’ve Settled to Experience
Hear me out, Loves. I’ve been navigating life cautiously for quite some time now. Especially since the passing of my mother. I’ve been doing what I’m supposed to do. Handling responsibilities, trying to get my life back on track, showing up for the people who depend on me, and making sure everything that needs my … Continue reading I Konfess, There’s More to Life Than What I’ve Settled to Experience
Monday Konfession: The Possibilities we Talk Ourselves out Of
I Konfess, sometimes the hardest person to convince of our potential is ourselves. There’s something beautiful about the beginning of an idea. The excitement of imagining what could be. The quiet anticipation of something new. The possibilities seem endless when we allow ourselves the freedom to dream. But somewhere between imagining and doing, uncertainty has … Continue reading Monday Konfession: The Possibilities we Talk Ourselves out Of
Monday Konfession: When the Safe Space Isn’t Safe
The last week has been rough. And honestly, “rough” might be putting it lightly. Between the death anniversaries of both my mom and grandfather, emotional roller coasters I didn’t exactly buy a ticket to ride, and just… life doing what life does, I’m grateful to simply be functional. Not thriving.Not pretending everything is perfectly fine.Just … Continue reading Monday Konfession: When the Safe Space Isn’t Safe
Monday Konfession.. On a Tuesday 🥴🤣
Apparently, even the creator of Monday Konfession needed an extension this week. So here’s today’s confession… I’m learning that consistency isn’t the same thing as perfection. Some weeks, I meal prep.Some weeks, I miss a workout.Some weeks, I forget what day it is entirely. 😅 But I’m discovering that growth isn’t found in never missing … Continue reading Monday Konfession.. On a Tuesday 🥴🤣
Hungover on Love
Happy Monday, Loves!As I sit with my thoughts from this past weekend, in my slightly hungover state, I realized just how deeply I am loved.I’m not only recovering from a beyond-normal level of alcohol consumption. I’m also hungover from the love, the laughter, the moments created, the memories made, and the beauty of being surrounded … Continue reading Hungover on Love
Don’t Gaslight My Scars (TABIT)
When you excuse someone’s harmful behavior, you don’t erase the trauma, you deepen it. “Don’t Gaslight My Scars”confronts how families and society make pain more palatable by rewriting the truth, and how those justifications keep the wound alive long after the moment has passed.
True Accountability: Holding the Mirror Straight, not Angled. (TABIT)
Hey Loves! Come on in and take a load off, let’s unload this topic with a microscope, with care, but also with the level of audacity it needs. This week hit different, for me that is. You ever had a person you held close, that you genuinely cared for, loved, met them with vulnerability and … Continue reading True Accountability: Holding the Mirror Straight, not Angled. (TABIT)
TABIT| Accountability Ain’t Attack: You Just ain’t used to Being Called Out, Love. ❤️
There’s a certain kind of silence that follows correction. A heavy pause. A shifted breath. A tension that wraps around the room like heat. Because the truth—when it ain’t been heard in a while—don’t always land soft. Let’s talk about it. Some of y’all think love means letting you run wild. Think loyalty means never … Continue reading TABIT| Accountability Ain’t Attack: You Just ain’t used to Being Called Out, Love. ❤️
TABIT: I Would’ve Shattered Sooner If I Didn’t Learn How to Mask
There’s a version of me the world got too comfortable with—The unbothered one. The strong one. The one who always had a comeback, a prayer, or a perfectly timed joke. But that wasn’t peace. That was performance. That was me learning how to mask my pain before it exposed me. I got really good at … Continue reading TABIT: I Would’ve Shattered Sooner If I Didn’t Learn How to Mask
Black Girl Missing: The Reflection I Didn’t Know I Needed.
Aired on Lifetime in March 2025 First, let me say this: This isn’t a review. I’m not a film analyst. I don’t dissect camera angles or critique performances. But I am a member of the target audience. I’m a Black woman. A Black mother. A Black sister. A Black auntie. And once upon a time… … Continue reading Black Girl Missing: The Reflection I Didn’t Know I Needed.
The Kind of Freedom They Don’t Talk About
They don’t always clap for this kind of freedom. Not the kind that’s wrapped in red, white, and blue. Not the kind that looks good in Instagram quotes. Not the kind you celebrate with fireworks and grilled ribs. I’m talking about the quiet kind of freedom. The kind you bleed into. The kind that costs … Continue reading The Kind of Freedom They Don’t Talk About
TABIT: Lessons Pain Taught Me – When Betrayal Makes You The Villain
It’s funny how betrayal dresses itself up. You’re the one left bleeding, but somehow they call you the aggressor. The villain. The storm. They forget who kept the peace.They forget who stayed quiet while they crossed lines. The Battle Between Truth and Foggy Reality There’s a silent war that begins the second betrayal steps onto … Continue reading TABIT: Lessons Pain Taught Me – When Betrayal Makes You The Villain
Talk About It Thursday: Lonely in a Room Full of People…The Ache Nobody Sees
Picture this. You’re sitting at a table. Laughter all around you. Clinking glasses. Stories being shared. Smiles stretching wide across faces. And you? You’re nodding. You’re smiling back. You’re there… but you’re not. Because inside, your heart feels like it’s folding in on itself. Like you could scream—and no one would hear it over the … Continue reading Talk About It Thursday: Lonely in a Room Full of People…The Ache Nobody Sees
