TABIT| Accountability Ain’t Attack: You Just ain’t used to Being Called Out, Love. ❤️

There’s a certain kind of silence that follows correction.

A heavy pause.

A shifted breath.

A tension that wraps around the room like heat.

Because the truth—when it ain’t been heard in a while—don’t always land soft.

Let’s talk about it.

Some of y’all think love means letting you run wild. Think loyalty means never checking you, never challenging you, never pulling your coattail when you step foul. You were raised in circles where silence was mistaken for peace—and where the first person to speak truth got labeled the enemy.

🩸 Where I Come From, Truth Gets You Cut Off

I grew up watching people sweep everything under the rug out of “respect.” Like silence healed the sting of the hurt. Like showing respect meant letting people repeatedly hurt you and calling it strength. Like holding someone accountable for the damage they caused meant you didn’t love them at all. Like saying, “You were wrong,” meant the bond was broken beyond repair.

But that ain’t love.

That’s emotional manipulation dressed up in generational habits.That’s how pain gets passed down and normalized.

And I ain’t inheriting none of that. NOT ANYMORE!

🪞 It Ain’t an Attack—It’s a Mirror

You ever notice how folks who never had to apologize can’t stomach being held accountable?

They call it shade.

They call it sneak dissing.

They call it an ambush.

Nah baby. That’s a mirror.

And it’s reflecting everything you’ve been avoiding.

I’ve lost people because I told the truth. Because I refused to co-sign the lie they were living in. And in their mind, that made me the villain.

But what I’ve learned is this: If your love can’t hold a mirror, it ain’t love—it’s manipulation.

🔥 I Ain’t Tearing You Down—You Just Not Used to Correction

Correction is not cruelty.

Accountability is not attack.

And truth—real truth—will check your ego, not stroke it.

You not healed if you still see correction as disrespect. You not ready for love if a boundary feels like betrayal. You not growing if the only thing you respond well to is praise.

💣 The Real Issue? You Got Comfortable in the Shallow End

Maybe the problem ain’t the people who hold you to a higher standard… Maybe it’s the fact that you got too comfortable staying beneath it.

So no, love.

I didn’t attack you. I just finally said something your ego couldn’t swallow.

That’s not my guilt to carry.

That’s your mirror to face.

~Kae Jaye